Would you make her pay you back?
Question by Taylor’s Momma: Would you make her pay you back?
My est friend was going to be my MOH in my wedding. I had a wedding planned for my hometown and had all the vendors booked. My friend kept urging me to have a beach wedding. She convinced me it would be cheaper because not as many people would attend and I wouldn’t have the high cost of flowers and decorations, etc. So I went with it. I cancelled all my vendors and lost about $ 1400. I realize now I should not have let her talk me out of the wedding I had dreamed of, but hind sight is 20/20.
So we go on planning the beach wedding, I book everyones rooms on my credit card (my boss is a timeshare owner and it was much cheaper if they were in my name because we could use my bosses account). Everyone paid me back except my MOH, who kept saying she would. She owed me just under $ 400.
I bought silk bouquets for me and her- hers was $ 44 and many other little things, jewelry, shoes, etc.
Three weeks before my wedding she says she isn’t going because her boss will only give her enough time off to stay five days and thats not long enough to spend that much money. She is not apologetic, in fact she was kinda shitty acting like I should pay for EVERYTHING.
Should I ask her to pay it back? We haven’t spoken in almost a week. I am recently unemployed and she makes good money. In fact I just saw on her FB that she is going to take the vacation time still, but is traveling elsewhere.
Best answer:
Answer by Bella
Looks like you aren’t happy with this person, and it also sounds as if you and this person was pretty close, to you…. Not sure what is happening between the two of you but something else must of happened for it to get to this stage… But to go and ask for your money back, won’t help you out and won’t help with your friendship either… And is it worth going to all that trouble in trying to get your money back, it may cost you more then money trying to get what is owed to you in the long run….
Why not try talking to this person, somewhere in public, like a cafe and see what the problem is or maybe you two could resolve it all…. I wouldn’t want to go in there asking for your money back not before you can talk it over with one another and face to face…….
All the best in your marriage,…
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Question by It’s the hair: Company won’t refund my money.?
Hello, I “signed up” for a timeshare about 4 weeks ago, which I canceled one day later. I made a large payment to them by a credit card which they were supposed to refund to my card, but as of today, they haven’t.
What should I do?
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Answer by Wayne Z
Call the Credit Card company and dispute the charge.
Many credit cards have online dispute processes. You log on to your account, click on the transaction and follow the steps to dispute the charge.
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Question by Sarah S: Wyndham/Fairfield Timeshares Cancellation Money Help?
I am new to Wyndham/Fairfield Timeshares. I made a reservation and I did not have enough points, so I had to buy them. Now I have cancelled the one day that was over $ 100.00. I cancelled more than 30 days before, will I get my money back?? HELP
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Answer by Imaka
It is difficult to tell. You’d have to read the fine print of your agreement. Try to contact them and ask.
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Tags: money, Cancellation, Wyndham/Fairfield, Timeshares, Help...Why can I not keep friendships?
Question by tarantinobuff: Why can I not keep friendships?
I am an almost 30 year old woman, and I don’t have 1 friend that has been a true friend for any given amount of time. I just recently lost a couple of girlfriends that I’d befriended last year, and I began to think long and hard about this situation, realizing I don’t keep girls as friends for any longer than about a year. I’m not sure if I am the common denominator, or if I choose bad friends.
Outsiders tell me it is because my friends are jealous. However, I see many successful, attractive women with the ability to keep friends, so I’m not sure that is the deal.
it seems I lose friends when I am wronged, and I stand up for myself. While yes, I am quite assertive, I am not abrasive or rude and I know when to choose my battles. I simply ask questions, and apparently others do not appreciate being held accountable for their actions. Am I alone here? Is it my generation? Is it me?
Quick run-down of recent situation: I asked a few girls to go on a trip using a timeshare of mine. They agreed and I paid a deposit to begin the search for our vacation. They decided to go on a trip with somone else but neglected to tell me. Instead of getting angry, I simply asked if I needed to cancel the search in order to get my money back. I was ignored, TWICE. I lost my deposit in the process, and when I confronted the girls, they all acted as if I was insane for being upset. One actually said not to blame her, that it was my fault I lost the money. This is not the only time people have treated me in this manner.
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Answer by Mr. Taco
It is hard to say, really, without knowing you. Based on the specific example you give at the end of this, I’d say the problem this particular time was definitely a matter of picking bad friends. Unless you’re leaving something out, I don’t see anything there that suggests you did anything wrong.
That said, it is not your generation. Lots of people our age (I’m 35) have perfectly good friends. Being successful and assertive are not the problem either if you are not being abrasive.
So based on what little information I have to go on here, I would say it is one of several things:
1. There is something in your personality that attracts manipulative and selfish people. I am not sure how to figure out what exactly it is, however, without paying a visit to your local therapist.
2. You ARE being abrasive or rude and are not aware of it. Impossible to say without knowing you, of course.
3. It’s just a case of bad luck. Honestly, if I had to bet on the three, I’d go with this one. You sound to me like you’re approaching this in an intelligent, mature way. There is no real reason you shouldn’t have more and better friends.
So the only advice I have (unless you want to give therapy a try and see if it gets you anywhere…maybe it will and maybe it won’t) is to just keep at it. Get out there and get involved with as many activities as you can so you meet more people, increasing your pool for friendship. Join a club. Do some volunteer work. Take a class. Whatever it takes. Then just keep being yourself and hope for the best!
Good luck!
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